Sometimes our negative feelings are there so that we can go deeper in understanding life and our father in heaven. When we feel discouraged in this world, it means that we are not content with what this world has to offer. When we feel down, it seems to be a time of transition for our souls. We learn what we are and what we are not. We learn who are our friends and who are not. We learn that only the father himself is able to satisfy our deepest needs. When the world presents itself it seems that it is often a facade. Only God is real. People act like who they are not, because if we saw them for who they are than maybe we would reject them as they reject themselves. I know that focusing on my own blemishes is full time work and I can see why it would be difficult to have real time for someone else. It is also in the times spent alone that we present ourselves to God as we really are, and the beautiful thing about God is that we do not have to be perfect, but because of his grace we are someone, but because of his long suffering can we grant long suffering to another. I would rather be alone then have fake interactions with others. I would rather be myself and accepted for who I am. In this world we will not find true love unless for his grace.
I looked down at my child and saw that they were anxious. This bothered me, I had no pleasure from it. This got me thinking about us and God our heavenly father. Humans are not equipped for anxiety. We were not meant to be burdened. What causes us to be burdened is trying to figure out things or to try to do things independent of God. God does not want his children to be anxious, and when he sees us anxious he does not like it. What is that thing you are thinking about that has you feeling fretful? He says, “my child, be anxious for nothing, I will take care of you”. Why then we might ask, has he not taken care of me yet? The next question you should ask yourself is this, have you taken your cares to him.. and… waited for him to answer? You see, I am very good about taking my cares to him, but waiting for him to move is another ball game. He says, “I am able”. When we know he cares about us, and I mean about every little thing that concerns us, then we will run to him. Think about the time you had a friend who cared about you and you felt you could safely run to them and be yourself. That is God, he is “that” friend. Maybe you have never had a friend like that, well guess what, God is that friend you have missed and longed for. He is the comforter for your soul. He is not imagined, he is, as he says “I am that I am”. He is the great, “I am”. He is it all. He is all you have ever hoped for or imagined. You don’t believe me? Try him. He says, “taste and see that I am good”. Go to him with that very thing that is making you feel worried, talk to him about it, ask him for a solution, and then.. wait…. he will counsel you he is waiting for you to truly seek him, seek his face. Get to know home. God I am so grateful that I have a God who is perfect like you. I am so grateful that you are slow to anger and full of mercy. Thank you for your promises that we can trust. You say that when we seek you first everything else will be added to us. I count on it father, my God who cares.
You are always the same. No matter how I feel, you are there, and you care about what I need. That has been the most liberating experience that I’ve had since I’ve been in a relationship with you my Lord. If I turn my thoughts to you, you keep me in perfect peace. Because when I turn my thoughts to you, I see that you are with me. You have always been there, but when I consider you, I can see your presence better. Not only this, but you are your own being, so even when I’m not consciously thinking about you, you speak up and remind me that you are with me. That is pleasant. Lately when I have a worry start to crop up, as it seems there is always something to concern ourselves about, you have started reminding me that you know what I need. Sometimes when we accept where we are, and what we have vs what we don’t yet have, then that is when you change things. Maybe you won’t change something right away, and often times you don’t. Why? We shouldn’t concern ourselves with earthly things that we have no control over. I realize that even if I suddenly had that one thing that I think would make me feel better, I might experience relief for a few days before my mind moves on to the next thing that needs fixed. While we are here on earth, there will always be something that needs fixed, and if we get upset over what needs fixed, then we will always be upset. Maybe having missing puzzle pieces is meant so that you can show us how you put together the most beautiful puzzle. It is almost like a surprise if we think about it. We see that missing puzzle piece all the time, but every time we pass by it, we wonder to ourselves, “what will it look like when he places that piece in?” Those missing puzzle pieces are meant to be filled in by him, some pieces a little faster then others, but always it is perfect. Let us think about the problems in our lives as small inconveniences that will be satisfied soon enough in a way that makes more pieces fit together to be something grand and beautiful, instead of failures on our part for having missing pieces.
Romans 8:28 New International Version (NIV)
28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose.
Isaiah 26:3 New King James Version (NKJV)
3 You will keep him in perfect peace,
Whose mind is stayed on You,
Because he trusts in You.
2 Corinthians 4:17 New International Version (NIV)
17 For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.
When people hurt you and are often fake, it is scary to dwell among them. The minute you open up to one of them it seems that is the moment that you are again reminded that people are not safe. Oh how great it is to have a good friend who you can share your deepest, inner most secrets with. Oh wait, what did they say about you? But.. I thought they understood me… but.. I thought they cared.. I thought they were safe, oh my bad for ever believing in a person.. once again I made a mistake. My life is set up to be exactly this way… why? Because this is what it takes for me to see that there is only one who is safe. He stands at the door.. waiting for me, watching me, loving me. I am his, I was designed just so that he can have me to be intimate with. No one else will share my glory he says to me, you have been created just for me. You have allowed me to chase after man.. you watched as I turned away and sought them instead, therefore every single “man” I turn to will be great a disappointment, why? Because you are standing in the doorway watching me, you know what I need, what I crave, what I desire, and it is a deep deep need for intimacy… but… this person does not suffice, that person doesn’t fit the bill, oh wait maybe this man will.. oh dang, no they didn’t, .. I search and I search and I search, and you are waiting, standing in the door way watching… finally I am utterly alone, disappointed, I remember you, and I call to you, you’ve always been there. You’ve always loved me perfectly. You’ve always been faithful to me, you are what I’ve always sought and craved. You are beautiful.. you are strong, you are wise, you are perfect….. salve for my heart, salve for my soul…. you reach out to me, even as I go about my business I feel your caress on my cheek, you love me and you just wanted me to be aware, that I was created just for you, you are my lover, I am fashioned to be yours to cherish and care for… oh how lucky I am I have been honored above all others because I have been prepared for the perfect lover and I am yours and you are mine and you I adore. I am safe.
I am told all the time, “it is well with you”. I am well because thanks to your grace I am understanding that I have not been well. I have had so many traumas and disappointments and they had taken their toll. However I am well because you are making me well. You tell me to expose myself to the light, to show you what is going on on the inside, things I do not want to see myself. I am not well. I am well because my hope is in you. I am well because I’m now very connected to you. I am well because it is just me and you. I can talk about how I feel because it is safe. I am not well Lord, but I am well now because with you I am safe.
I’m in a process right now of grieving because God is having a “coming to Jesus” meeting with me, so to speak. I have realized that my focus on men is idolatry for me, and is simply a distraction that makes me have sorrow. I have been so afraid he’s leading me to be single, while at the same time wishing I had the grace of a eunuch, not having the need to be with a man. Now I’ve come to a cross roads that I am called to focus all my attention back to him, and to not do so is straight up disobedience. So I grieve because of recent perceptions and doubts about a man I love and feeling rejected. The Lord reminds me every time that I am hurting because I am tangling myself with man flesh (not literally just yet), and setting my heart on man who is imperfect, when in all honesty it is perfect love that I truly need not only now, but maybe for the rest of my life. I have anguish when I consider my desire to be with a man, yet am not sure how I would ever be content with anything less than the best which I doubt I’d ever have with a human. I have my will, my understanding which at times feels so limiting, and then I have God’s will that I do not know. I do know this however, I want what his will is more than I want my own will. So now for the sake of knowing that “father knows best” I am yielding to his will which is to focus on him right now. Put him first right now. Make him my love right now. I am not going to lie, it is a struggle. I am still thinking about the man I care about, still going through the hurt I feel from doubt, still hopeful it can work out, the grief of dying to my will completely not knowing if I’ll ever know a man again as I do so which has been a solid idol in my life for years, and just down about these things, then coming back to hearing God in the back ground in spirit dropping scripture after scripture in my heart saying, “today is the day that the lord has made, rejoice and be glad in it”, “all good things come from above from the father of heavenly lights”, “praise God for all the things his hands have made”, “there is nothing in all creation that can separate you from my love”, “he works all these light and momentary afflictions for my good”, “faith comes by hearing, hearing by the word of God”… and there is a spiritual presence rejoicing and leading me to rejoice all the while my soul is in grief because I am dying to my will.. but wait, there’s more voices, “I have been crucified with Christ, nevertheless I live, yet not I but the life I live i Live by faith in the son of God who loved me and gave himself for me”, “how much more will you submit to the father of lights and live”, “it is the perfecting of your faith that is at work here”, “patient endurance, patient endurance”. Here is what faith is about, it is about believing what the word says enough to die for it and act upon it. It does not feel good… at first. This is why it is called dying, however the glory of being rooted and established in love and on his word is that there is so much promise, and we know that we don’t truly find life until we have given up our life saying, “not my will by thy will be done”. Oh how glorious is the inheritance of the saints. No eye has seen or ear heard what God has in store for those who love him. Ok ok Lord, if you tell me to rejoice, then I better receive that command and start rejoicing, by faith, pressing in, finding a reason. Because you know the plans you have for my life, plans to prosper me and not harm me, to give me a hope and a future.. Jeremiah 29:11 my verse for this month. Surely we have a delightful inheritance.
So, now that I’ve gotten all that under my belt and dealt with, there is peace. Now that my only work is to focus on is the assignment the Lord has given me. Now that the only one who I am giving my heart to is Jesus, I have found the one and perfect thing. No greater love has man than this, that a man would lay down his life for his friend. Jesus believed in God’s will enough that he willingly gave up his life, so that by him loving his life, because he loved me so much, I might now be able to enjoy a life lived through him completing God’s will. Jesus is my heart focus and his love is perfect. He is always right. He is always genuine, patient, loyal, loving, true, and when he tells me I need to listen, it is because he genuinely loves my soul. There is so much comfort when the king of the heavenly realms gives you an assignment and a new hope to live a life worthy of that call is my biggest sacrifice. I have grand things to look forward to and there is a word for every season so I have a lamp for my feet at all times to light the correct path and there is thrill in mystery. When my heart is set on him, the author and finisher of my faith, the pain dissipates, the storm calms and I am very comforted. Thank you Jesus.