I have found that the only way to really relate to a person in the most beneficial way is to separate yourself from the need of their love. Don’t go into any relationship whether it is romantic, friendship, family, business … expecting to be loved. As a matter of fact assume that the point of your connection is most likley going to be about their needs or your needs apart from being loved. It is only when I place my heart in someone’s hands that it gets hurt. Keep your hearts to yourselves let me explain more. Don’t ever seek to get your need for love met by another person. There are only two guaranteed ways to protect your heart, this is to take care of it yourself and give it to Jesus. Jesus is the only one who has 100 percent pure love. Now, this does not mean that we cannot love people. Part of our heart’s function or purpose is for giving it to another in the aspect of giving someone else some love and care. In the same token it is not your sole responsibility meet anyone else’s needs. You can give what you are able, the rest is not your concern. We get into some unhealthy dynamics whenever we expect someone else to complete our need for love and when we allow others to make us responsible for their love needs. When we give what we can, but with the rest we go to our Lord to meet our needs everything works out, stays in balance and on top of that, as we obey him and follow his lead he leads us even in the areas of relationships that makes them richer. So when you enter into a new relationship give to them, keep your heart protected and stay away from being sucked into responsibility that is not yours. Peace .