I would lay down belly up for the right man, as a matter of fact I want to. But God did not make me a dumb or weak woman. Ive done this for men who I shouldn’t have, men who either abused or didn’t appreciate me. I haven’t done this for a man who I should have done this for. Im learning about myself, my particular personality traits and what I really want and need for myself and from others. I know that I need a man who I mesh well with. Some men are really good men, as are some women, however the combination just doesnt quite fit. The wrong men will see me as too weak, or too strong. Too weak in that i am eager to lay down belly up, or too strong in that im only going to go so far in covering up for your ego. A proud, selfish man and I will never get along… ever.. ever.. ever… you will hate me because I will become that horrible irritating nag nag drip drip drip hide on the corner of the roof wife.. as a matter if fact I’ll have your bag waiting. I cannot stand a self centered proud brute…
Ok so maybe I’m not ready to be married again lol.. Lord, will i ever be? Truth is that we are all human and there is only so much a man or woman can take.. even a Christian man or woman.. trust me on this. Do I expect a man to be perfect? Well that would be nice but I realize that is not relaistic. Truth is I don’t really know what I need but God does. I desire someone who is always honest and who will tell me what they truly think… especially if they know that i won’t like it. If you want my respect this will go a long way in buying it. A man who will tell me the truth is like a man giving me a 100 dollars. Truth is so valuable to me. If they tell me the truth despite how im going to feel.. this shows bravery to me.. and my respect meter just went up more.. 150 dollars… tell me the truth (in love) despite the danger to you and without making excuses 200 dollars… please the excuses will knock the value down a bit… a man who will tell me the truth, be loving and hear my side and not make excuses.. 300 dollars. A man who will walk with me talk with me genuinely hear me but always being honest with me
And who I never catch making a side ways glance at another lady? Sold! Oh wait… i have never ever found one of those yet.. ever..
No Lord, if they cant give me that then I would rather stay single foever and learn by your grace the joy of abstinence… that is the truth.
Now this is something a lot of men don’t get. There is so much preaching about the importance of submission but not enough about how men should consider their wives and earn their respect. There are certain behaviors that you will do that will strip your wife’s ability to respect you and this will be different for every woman. Some woman see men having a straying eye as natural wheras i will divorce you for it. Some women will overlook lies but i simply cannot trust a man who lies. I look at the heart of a person. It is not so much what you say, or even how you say it.. it is your heart intent behind it.. yeah that is what Jenifer’s spirit eyes are always searching.. a person’s heart. I want a man with a genuinely good heart. Amen.